This page about Filipina and Asian penpals, dating, love, marriage and mail order bride, pen pal introduction sites. Many Asian Mail Order Brides come from the Philippines, China, and other countries experiencing economic hardship and long waits for visa numbers. Many ladies may be sincere, but is it for love or a cultural tradition to support her Filipino family back home? You decide. Are there honest Pinay ladies looking for true love and can't seem to find it right at home? Or, are Filipinas saying they are in love mostly just scammers, beggers, liars seeking, K-1 and I-130 visas to earn money to send home after fleecing the man who petitioned them? This Filipina love and dating information site is 100% free and we don't get paid anything from anyone but we also say that you use this site "as-is" and we make no guarantee of accuracy or fitness for any purpose. We do not endorse any dating sites such as: Filipina Heart, Date In Asia, Melindas penpals, Pure Filipina, Find Love Asia, Filipina Eyes, Asia People Meet, Filipina Connection, e-Harmony, Foreign Ladies, Cebuanas, I Chat Filipina, Fildate, Meet Filipina Girls, Philippines Dating Women, Manila Darlings, Pacific Island Tours, Filipina Match, Christian Filipina or the many others. Fraud and scams may seem acceptable to many in desperate financial conditions. We seek to improve cultural understanding on both sides of the Pacific to avoid marital failure, heartbreak, divorce, alimony, child support, abuse and other serious penpal problems. Mabuhay! Remember, if something sounds too good to be true, it probably is! NEVER SEND MONEY. If every man would not send money the fraud & scam chat girls would disappear from the dating sites. Sure the Philippines is a very poor and overpopulated country, but fixing this will take a huge change in culture, not your money. For more on pen pal scams please visit (not endorsed) Philippine Introductions Article or visit CBI Filipina Internet Scams or see the movie Closer To Home.
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Those who will not reason, are bigots; those who cannot, are fools; and those who dare not, are slaves." - Lord George Byron
All Filipina and Western pen pals who publish at dating sites are having some problem finding what they are looking for at home. While love and affection is presumed, often there are other underlying motivations. Knowing all about your penpal bride (or groom) is always necessary but often overlooked due to desperation on both sides of the Ocean leading to marriage failure, unhappiness, fraud, divorce, economic loss and feelings of being scammed, or cheated. As some dating sites suggest, men should never send money, and doing so may violate their terms of service. Men who send money to Filipinas is what keeps the dating sites full of scam girls. Although Filipina dating sites won't release demographics by age and sex of their members, we believe there are already way more men than women at most Asian dating sites and that Filipina ladies were even paid in the past to publish themselves so the pen pal companies could sell lists to American and Western men seeking mail order brides.
Many women everywhere seek men for "enabling", which inhibits true romantic love. Standard of living is often the motivation for "sincere" Filipino women to seek a man for marriage. In the Philippines, daughters are expected to help support their "true family" (their parents, siblings and children) often with little if any means to do so. The Asawa (husband or wife) is often viewed more as a "functional" object or enabler than someone you have a deep romantic and affectionate bond with. Filipina asawa expect a man to be a hard working provider, and the woman to be an incubator for making children and taking care of the house, which is their form of retirement in a country with no social security system. Many of the Filipino ladies hoping to marry a foreigner for immigration and I-130 visas are joining penpal dating and marriage sites to fulfill their obligation to provide for parents and siblings and will do whatever it takes. Of course, today, many younger Filipinas can get away with scams and fraud to support family with no intentions of love. Some scams by Asian and Philippine women can be very complex and dangerous with or without marriage or sex.
Many Filipinas seek work abroad. Since few Philippine women have the skills or disposable income to pay an overseas employment agency, finding a "husband" as "employer" often is the "job of last resort". Knowing a Pinay's true motivations for marriage and her family is essential to avoid a love misrepresentation. The movie Closer To Home is an excellent example of hidden underlying motivations that lead to fraud in the name of love.
Asian & Filipina Pen Pal Dating Connections, The Truths and Lies.
In the past, pretty photos of Beautiful Island girls and sensual Oriental ladies sold the successful publications to hundreds of men seeking submissive virgin cherry blossoms. This gave scam artists hundreds of male "customers" too. Not much has changed with the internet, although it could. As before, men are the ones paying for these dating introduction services and there is a shortage of younger and more attractive or educated ladies. Few of the ladies are seeking true romantic love as there are many men at home in the Philippines, China, Thailand, Malasia, India and everywhere else. Asian women, like ladies everywhere, can find love right at home. Filipina ladies wanting to go abroad do so mostly for financial reasons because they must support family back home.
Filipina and Asian women rarely seek foreigners for their cultural or religious differences. It's not your activism, the environment, population control, civil liberties, beer or sports that motivate Oriental girls to publish at pen pal sites.
Asian and Filipina dating scams come in many varieties and degrees of severity, but the simple money requests usually involve the need for sudden cash for alleged sickness, computer rental, tuition, holidays, etc. These are often the same reasons Filipina ladies would do petty prostitution with discrete "boyfriends". Now, they don't need the Filipino boys with money to support them, they can hang-out in chat rooms, Yahoo Messenger being a favorite.
Filipina dating sites claiming to have beautiful loyal sincere island girls waiting to be your Filipina heart of gold may actually have many more men then eligible women. Many sweet Filippine ladies at dating sites may be bar-girls, scamming with parents, or have a Filipino lover. Some pinay are "party girls" seeking fun for her and her friends (barkada), lady-boys, "troubled", sexually repressed or otherwise incompatible as brides. Many girls have men visiting every month spending something on them. These ladies usually want you to visit them before either of you know too much about each other. Non-disclosure is a common Oriental custom as secret agendas are expected as customary. Love, is often a synonym for stability or support. It is very important to take time to know about each other before anyone books a plane flight. Ask youself how much a penpal is really telling you about herself and how well does she really know you before saying "I love you" or other such non-sense intended to get you to loosen up your wallet or fly around the world. The biggest scams occur after you hit the tarmac.
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WARNING: Some very dangerous scams can occur and the laws in the Philippines are different than in most Western countries. Also, Philippine ladies often know the immigration and divorce laws of overseas and will do the common scams of Western and American ladies. We've all seen a woman marry a man to take him for half of his assets. Also, your Government probably won't help you. The laws generally require the man sponsoring a girl on a fiance visa (K-1 visa) or bride (I-130 visa) to provide for her and her costs. This could include her legal defense fees to "prove" you were "abusive" to her so she does not have to wait the 2-year period for her conditional permanent residence AND she will probably get to stay in your country! Of course, smart men live in the girls country for two years first as it's hard to pretend to love someone longer than that AND a woman's love hormone (oxytocin) will often wear off even if she did love you before two years as nature's way of having her spread her eggs around to enhance her evolutionary survival. Sex is for evolution!
Ideally there could be computer dating sites with "reciprocal matching" and other features. Of course, you won't find them anywhere even though the technology exists. Some domestic and foreign dating sites claim to have compatibility and personality matching, but it often appears to be more smoke and mirrors than anything else. Why? Because of dating demographics. If you put all the REAL male and female "parameters" in a big computer you'd find few honest matches. Compromise is all that is left, which is usually unsatisfactory.
Filipinas are expected to be virgins on their wedding and you may even find 80 year old men marrying a young virgin Filipina. Age often is not important when you're reason for finding a man is purely for financial support. Would things be any different if the man was half that age? How about if man is the same age as the Filipina bride? If the motivation is the same then sexual arousal was never in the equation and essential for a true sexual love bond. Something to consider. We've seen many younger men crying in their beers after meeting their pen pal. Deep romantic love is often more a Western concept than Oriental one, especially where NGO "save them funds" have poster children. But University girls do date Filipino men their same age often with real love in their hearts. Real heartbreak too when the love hormones fade and the disappointment and hurt feelings increase as nature intended, to spread those genes.
Just as breathing is needed for respiration, sex is needed for evolution (genetic recombination). It is not natural to hold one's breath just as it is not natural to avoid having a sexual romantic love relationship. Of course, "protection, no objection". Does your Filipina bride see things this way? Does your Filipina bride see this one life as something to really enjoy without shame in sex? Are you a good "romantic match"?
For more on pen pal scams and chat room problems please read thePhilippine Introductions Article, or visit CBI Filipina Internet Scams
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Bottom line: Filipinas who look good, are virgins, sweet and loving, have a college education, or come from the middle or upper economic castes will be in high demand and have many eligible suitors right at home. They rarely need to publish as pen pals which is a social disgrace in the eyes of many from her culture. It is overlooked because of the "desperation". Filipina bar girls and host-girls working at home or in nearby Asian countries are also seen as supporting family the only way they could.
Some Non-Scientific "Stats" To Consider...
BEWARE OF SCAMS, WHICH CAN BE ESPECIALLY DANGEROUS AFTER YOU HIT THE TARMAC.
Statistics show that less than 1% of Filipina ladies who publish as penpals will ever marry a foreigner and only a tiny percentage of American marriages involve a foreign bride. Abuse among these marriages may be greater than average due to mismatch, lack of time to truly know each other, undisclosed agendas, "control issues" by insecure men and fraud by women who want to quickly get out of the marriage but keep her immigrant visa which she can do if she can demonstrate abuse. Some fraudulent marriages are planned by the lady very carefully. The "I was abused" scheme is a common fraud. Dropping a baby for 18 years of child support payments is another. Beware of the many dangerous and costly scams that can occur abroad after you hit the tarmac. Although not scientific, the following is a rough break-down of the types of ladies who publish.
Although not scientific, the following is a rough break-down of the types of ladies who publish.
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"All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident." -- Arthur Schopenhauer "Every great advance in natural knowledge has involved the absolute rejection of authority." - Thomas Huxley (1825-1895) "It is dangerous to be right in matters on which the established authorities are wrong." - Voltaire
"All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident." -- Arthur Schopenhauer
"Every great advance in natural knowledge has involved the absolute rejection of authority." - Thomas Huxley (1825-1895)
"It is dangerous to be right in matters on which the established authorities are wrong." - Voltaire
Resurrection From The "Dark Ages"
"The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable man persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man." - George Bernard Shaw
The Philippines is a primarily Catholic country in which you ethically step back in time to the "dark ages". Men volunteer to be crucified (usually not to their death) in almost every Philippine town during Easter. Water buffalo are made to kneal before the church. People often flog themselves bloody. The need for consolation and forgiveness of sins is extreme. Their "merciful" God, commands supplication! How much sensual love and affection can exist in culture where sex is a "necessary evil" for making babies (their social security) which then inculcates cleansing as "original sin"? The notion that sex is natural and necessary for evolution is incomprehensible to all but an educated few. Predictably, they have an overpopulation crisis (birth-control is viewed with contempt) and environmental crisis (it's God's will) and economic hardship (it's God's test). Of course, desperation is the breeding grounds for religious fanaticism. "Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions." - Albert Einstein
"Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions." - Albert Einstein